The Wanderings of a Fanciful Muse

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Fri, 26 Oct 2012 14:17:56 GMT

There have been quite a few changes over the past couple of weeks.

Gothic, who had pretty much worn out her welcome with all active players in the clan, left for another clan. She's also spreading lies about us; she told a whopper to buddi and he decided to leave with her. So be it, buddi wasn't that big of a participant anyway.

Willy and I decided to split up. We both have different reasons and I'll leave it at that. We're still on talking terms.

I nearly sold Isle of Anu because with Willy's contribution gone, it's made it very hard on me to keep funding the SL sim along with both Inworldz sims. Several people stepped up to assist me however, both in getting my empty plots filled and the residents themselves approving a modest increase in rent. My rent has been the same the entire time I've had that island, so an increase isn't that far out of the question.

Today, as I write this, I find myself feeling the first true pangs of loneliness. When you've been with the same virtual world partner nearly all of your virtual life, it's really hard to be single again. I have nobody to go out on a date with. I have nobody to curl up at night with. There are a thousand things you come to take for granted in a relationship that you don't quite notice until they're gone. It's not that different from a RL relationship. I also miss the RL part of our relationship - frequent phone calls and texts. My cell has been very quiet since the breakup.

I suppose I should try to date others again. Willy said in his profile that I should keep the good times in my heart. I do...and I miss them. I don't miss our arguments and the pain we caused each other, though. There seem to be too many differences to keep ignoring, anymore.

Ideally I'd like to find someone who not only shares the same things that used to be differences, but can also help run our clan and fund the land for it...someone who is talented, imaginative, thoughtful and affectionate.

I may have to take one club down and set that corner of the sim up for rent in USD...don't know what else to do...

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Fri, 24 Aug 2012 00:25:21 GMT

There are a couple of things I'd like to say that may piss some people off, but frankly, I don't care if they do.

1. I am despairing that there are any stable, creative individuals left that aren't involved in their own groups, already. Every time I tell someone new that we don't tolerate drama and are as "real" as it gets, they will nod and smile - but do they stick around? No. I'm left to conclude that they find our sim and group "boring" because we don't allow people to beat up on one another or dump on one another. It's either that or they've seen SO much drama that they refuse to believe we don't tolerate it. I find this very frustrating.

2. Men, it's your turn. Listen - you can't treat women like shit in the concrete world, so what in the HELL makes you think you can treat them like shit in virtual worlds? The SAME women you have to treat with respect in the concrete world are the ones you find in virtual worlds. STOP already with the chauvinistic bullshit.

My SL daughter got involved with someone whose name I won't mention. Every time she's dressed in the least sexy manner when he's not around, he's grilled her about what she's been doing and who she's been with, as though she dressed on purpose to tantalize other guys. Ummmmm....NO. WRONG ASSUMPTION.

You cannot tell us how to dress in virtual worlds anymore than you could get away with that in the concrete, so get over yourselves or be willing to follow the same exact rules you try to impose on the women in your virtual life. That's right - it's a two-way street, guys. Don't be trying to tell the women what to do or treating them like they are sluts based on what they wear. You wouldn't want to be judged like that, would you? Apply the same sort of thing to the female side of the race and maybe - MAYBE - you won't get slapped so much.

Also don't be dictating behavior to the women in your virtual life. If they aren't wearing your collar and have a dom/sub contract with you, they are NOT your SLAVE. YOU certainly don't like being told what to do so stop doing it to women. Again, it's a two-way street and you really need to remember that.

Just because a woman has a strong personality does not mean you get to ignore her and talk to her husband. If she's in charge of something, you talk to HER - NOT her husband. You don't ass|u|me that the man is "in control". You treat her as an individual worthy of the same consideration you would want for yourself.

If you have a hard time with the idea of a woman in charge, you best go to one of the Gor sims or something like that - because that's the only way you're going to avoid them.

This is the 21st century and it's about time you get with the program, guys. It's not the 1950's though I wager you could conceivably find a space in an virtual world set up for just that...but if you aren't frequenting a scenario where it's obvious women are second-class citizens, then for the gods sakes, stop TREATING them like they are.

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Good roleplayers are hard to find

Sun, 29 Jul 2012 13:53:55 GMT

As some of you know, we are trying to build a roleplayer base for our Bloodlines clan.

We are doing our best to find a "happy medium" between White Wolf's "Vampire: the Masquerade" (otherwise known as V:tM) and Bloodlines on Second Life. In order to do that, we've begun setting some ground rules. A good example is that if someone is vampire at all (that includes hybrids) - they are dead. They cannot have children the natural way. There are a lot of Bloodlines players on Second Life that don't really know how to play a vampire, and have babies and whatnot. If they truly wish to immerse themselves in the role, they have to accept that they are dead, and so is their ability to have children.

We also have a very hard line against drama, and if we have a player who is constantly creating drama - and we're not talking about the kind that happens during routine roleplay - they get one chance. If they don't clean up their act, they're out.

We have already ejected and banned one member for extremely abusive drama. Not only did he fail to show my character any respect, he constantly defied orders, and mixed way too much "real life" in with the roleplay. He played people off one another, lied a lot, and abused the girl he got engaged to, to the point where she didn't eat for 4 days, IRL. He'd already had one chance and he more than blew it.

What has he done since then? We found out that you can still pay someone who has blocked you. Go figure. They can't send you things, they can't talk to you, but they can pay you? He was doing it to get his ex's attention. She'd unblock him long enough to tell him to stop and then they'd be going round-for-round again. He was telling her we didn't want her but kept her around anyway. He was telling her all kinds of things meant to make her feel bad - and they did. He even told Willy that she was planning to make an alt character to be with him and/or leave our clan. I know the last to be a baldfaced lie because she asked me to promise her that I wouldn't ever let him back in the clan. Finally, we got her to block him, and instructed her on how to file an Abuse Report should he keep paying her to get her attention.

We had another guy come to us, that had a boatload of souls, and wanted to be in a clan that was more traditional - which is what we were shooting for. He turned out to be a flake. First of all, he was in bed with all of his female minons, literally - and that's all he had. Second, he and his RL girlfriend were mixing way too much RL and SL. She was going to leave him for her SL lover, and gave him till the end of July to find a place to live. He was having a relationship with the head of another clan, who offered to take him in. He didn't care for her stiplulations, however - dump the subs and be exclusive to her, in RL and in SL. In the meantime, he and his RL decided to give their relationship another chance, so he told this clan leader he wouldn't be moving in with her. She, in turn, said all kinds of hurtful things about him and his "girls" to her clanmates. I stood in their castle's living room and listened as they related the drama, up to and including one of his girls crying over the microphone.

I reassured them all that they would not have that kind of drama with us, and I thought we were headed toward an exciting future. A couple of days later, I sent an instant message to our group chat, and what was this guy doing? Having sex with his "girls". Obviously they weren't interested in more "meaningful" interaction.

Yesterday, he messages Willy and informs him that he is quitting our clan, that there wasn't enough interaction. Then, I find out what really happened. He returned to the clan he just left, headed up by the woman who wanted him for herself. Evidently, she followed through on her promise of an "RP sim" that he could exclusively set up. Obviously, nothing that was said or done mere days before counted, anymore - and we and our clan were the ones that lost out.

This guy actually joined and left us, twice. The first time was when he was on the outs with his RL girlfriend and he, as he put it, "wanted to make sure his minions were fed while he worked out what he was going to do." Did he talk to me, first? Nope. I would have gladly kept them safe and fed. It was two days later that he rejoined us, using his alt account, bringing his main account and all his souls and "girls" with him.

Inside of a week, he was lieged, delieged, lieged and delieged. Flake!

I am beginning to wonder if there are any stable adults, with their heads on halfway straight, who love to roleplay and are on Second Life. I'm beginning to think those that are, are already in groups and just as suspicious of newcomers as we have become. All I know is I am fed up with the sociopaths, abusers, and flakes we've already run across. It takes a great deal to get me angry, and I was fuming, yesterday.

Abuser #1 accused me of being "elitist". The only possible way he could've gotten that is (a) I won't stand for abusive drama, and (b) We would like to have some actual guidelines to our roleplay so it's not a free-for-all. Tell you what - if that makes me "elitist", then I wear the tag proudly.

If he called me "elitist" because I tend to get quiet in big groups, then that shows he does not know me at all (he doesn't). I'm not being aloof, I'm being genuinely shy. It takes me awhile to warm up to others, and that's true for Willy as well. Meeting a crowd just once usually isn't enough for either one of us to loosen up.

Yes, I am co-leader of our Clan. Yes, that means I interface with others more than many others do. And yes - it takes an effort for me to do so. At the same time, I know for a fact that I'm polite, kind, and cheerful with most folks.

For right now, I think Willy and I are just going to take it easy and maybe work on building projects. Dealing with people like I've outlined above can take a lot out of you, even if you're like me and you try not to let them get under your skin.

I would just be happy if a couple of genuine roleplayers came along...

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The Garden Of Your Mind

Sat, 09 Jun 2012 13:01:22 GMT

Miss this guy...

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