Rest in peace, little buddy.
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The prognosis was possible cancer and just to find out would've required tests; the aggravation and manipulation would've likely killed him.
The vet was very kind and very professional; even so, I could see the pain on her face. I asked her what, from a practical point of view, she would do. She said he had less than a 50/50 chance. We decided it would be better for him to go to the Summerlands than to put him through the pain and aggravation, especially considering that he likely had cancer.
Rest in peace, my little buddy Grimmy.
Much thanks and love to all who helped, both financially and otherwise.
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Date: 1/22/09 02:16 am (UTC)I can only imagine the pain you feel in having to make that terrible choice.
Someday, I will have to make that decision for my BadKitty and the thought brings me to tears.
But as I said before, I knew that you would not let Grim suffer...
Hugs to you and yours...
I'm going to go hug my kitty now
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Date: 1/22/09 02:18 am (UTC)*HUGS*
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Date: 1/22/09 02:22 am (UTC)It's also shameful that you had to deal with asshole trolls harassing you in the course of all this. Having the care and love you gave this cat was needlessly put under a microscope was cruel and thoughtless. Unfortunately some of these people are so self-absorbed in their self aggrandizement that they won't feel a bit of genuine remorse.
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Date: 1/22/09 02:23 am (UTC)you obviously cared for the kitty deeply and it is obvious the presence of the kitty enriched your life.
i've seen people try and nurse cats through severe illnesses like you describe, and while it is true the cat can sometimes hang on for a while-- even years, and sometimes seems to get better for a few days or weeks-- but the cat always looks really in pain and the quality of life simply isn't there and it is just a prolonged sad situation.
i hope you get through this okay.
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Date: 1/22/09 02:24 am (UTC)Hugs, I'm sorry dear.....
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Date: 1/22/09 04:26 am (UTC)~M~
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Date: 1/22/09 04:46 am (UTC)btw, those dumbfucks don't realize one of my best friends regularly watches them for me because I don't handle stress well, and she sent me the link about this who mess. And clearly they magically know we've never had contact before, like the messages from last year.
The best thing you and L can do is to ignore them. Friends-lock your posts, be picky about who you allow, and roll your eyes when they try shit. Eventually they'll get bored and move on to someone else. Don't rise to them, don't read their pathetic little communities, don't let them feel special or powerful. If they reply to anything you say, just delete it without reading it, and ban_set each of them from replying in your journal.
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Date: 1/22/09 04:49 am (UTC)~M~
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Date: 1/22/09 04:53 am (UTC)Sorry for the language.
Glad to see you back. What happened with your other account? Msg me if you want.
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Date: 1/22/09 03:03 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 1/22/09 03:15 am (UTC)My heart and thoughts are with you.
i'll light a candle..
Date: 1/22/09 03:27 am (UTC)it was hard for us to do the same for my Tiger in April, then two days later, our dog Sadie... cancer for both. But, in the end, i know it did save them the pain of a very painful death no matter what others say.
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Date: 1/22/09 03:28 am (UTC)am here for you, hon.
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Date: 1/22/09 05:05 am (UTC)~M~
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Date: 1/22/09 06:05 am (UTC)Blessings.
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Date: 1/22/09 06:15 am (UTC)I just bet Jade was there waiting for him.
How are you doing, hon? Please don't let the crapstorm prevent you from grieving. You know as well as I do that's a necessary part of death.
*more hugs here*
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Date: 1/22/09 08:43 am (UTC)The odd thing is was that while I might have mourned her for years and gone without ever loving another kitten, less than a month later, the woman who would become my daughter's godmother dropped this feral anti-social wildcat she'd saved from an icy-wet winter and for whatever reason, I was the only human other than my friend this cat would trust. And now that we've had Stormy (named after the Storm that our friend found her in) for nearly the same length of time we had Pai, I see Pai in her. She does some of the same odd things that out of all of my cats ONLY Pai has ever done (even though Stormy's a little shorthaired mutt grey tabby), and she's as attached to me as Pai ever was.
So, the point of my story is this: I never stop missing Pai. When Sonja started having nightmares, I took my statue of Bast from my alter and put it to guard the only window in her bedroom -- and it wears Pai's collar. I ask my kitty to watch the spirit realm and keep my baby safe every night. And the funny thing is, when I do, Stormy comes trooping in, like someone called her, and always checks under the baby's crib for anything odd to chase or eat, and she keeps vigil on Sonja until the baby's asleep, and stays there until I go to bed.... then she takes up post right beside my head on a very special pillow, just like Pai used to do before her. I don't know if Pai and Stormy are one, or perhaps Pai has touched Stormy in some special way... I have no way of knowing Stormy's age, but she was nearly full-grown when she came to me. But the point is this... they leave our sides, but never our hearts. Cats, when they give their love, are more fiercely loving and faithful than dogs could hope to be. And though a part of your heart feels missing right now, don't close it... because you never know in what strange ways your kitty might find to help heal it for you.
And I should add... I do write this... with Stormy curled on a special stool I keep right beside my chair, on a blanky, snoring, waiting for me to say it's bed time. :)
I know you hurt, my dear, but she didn't leave you completely. Trust me. *hugs*
Something you should have to read, if you didn't already know it...
Date: 1/22/09 08:51 am (UTC)When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals that had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster. You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
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Date: 1/22/09 10:05 am (UTC)But as you say, it's better that he didn't have to go through all the invasive treatment which might have killed him anyway. It's a hard thing though, I've had a few pets have to be put down for cancer or incurables and it's never an easy decision.
*hugs*
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Date: 1/22/09 02:33 pm (UTC)I'm sorry things came to this.
Peace to you and yours.
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