Mercury Retro raising its ugly head

[fanciful_muse]

Who should raise his skinny ugly head, but my ex husband.

Recently, I changed my Facebook name to my RL name. Why? Because I'm finally trying to connect with far-flung relatives, starting with Jon's brother, Jere. I wanted Jere to know it was me who was contacting him.

Today, I get this message from my ex: "Why did you put your public profule on facebook as leesa xxxxx when we clearly paid for you to ise your maiden name? I am very hard to aggrivate but if you do not delete this profile immediately i will find you in contempt of the devorce and you will ve liable for the costs incurred as a result of your SPECIFIC requests." (sic - I didn't make the spelling errors)

Um...I am in the middle of trying to secure safe housing for Michael and I - the LAST thing I want to do is change my name in the midst of that process. Why didn't I change it before now? Laziness, I suppose. He'd moved back to his home state of Maine, I'd moved out West, and my last name is very common. To hear he paid extra to put that in the divorce decree? Why'd he have to pay extra?

This is the last I sent to him (his wife's name omitted for privacy): "Maybe now you'll learn that honesty is the best policy. Let me outline this for you: You told xxxxx she was your first and only wife, right? Maybe now you need to tell her that you were with me all of 5 years, during the last year, we were married. Regretting your decision, you started cheating on me and we didn't even make it to our first anniversary before you left. Maybe it's about time she knows that, while you intend to stay with her, she wasn't your first. You married your first because everyone told you not to. Basically a dare. You see, I may seem like a softie to you but I'm not that person anymore. You don't want to get on my bad side. Nuff said."

I don't need this shit. He has no clue what I'm going through and wouldn't know how to make his way out of a wet paper bag if he went through it.

Comments

his skinny ugly head

[nebris.livejournal.com]

Actually, I think it looks more like a grapefruit.

~M~

Re: his skinny ugly head

[magyarok-saman.livejournal.com]

oh, he has that gangsta thing goin on along with his pants down around his knees and he doesn't even know what that means LOL!

[mrs-ralph.livejournal.com]

You know I think I would have just told him I didn't know what the hell he was talking about and didn't want to know, instead of poking him. However if he wears his pants round his knees sooner or later they will be around his ankles so might as well get the first poke.

[cloudwatcher.livejournal.com]

There is usually a place on the divorce filings that indicates whether or not the wife is taking her maiden name back. If that was done, then you simply revert to your maiden name. There is no requirement to have your name changed in court. You simply change it with all the agencies, like VA and Social Security, drivers license, etc.

But you are correct that this is not a good time to start messing with your legal name, and the ex has no legal standing to force you to do so.